There are many obvious differences between having and not having children but there are some similarities as well, particularly in terms of leading a full and happy life. To compare and contrast these two ways of living, it is necessary to look at how the two are different before examining the ways they can be more alike than what might at first appear. In general, however, each comes with a particular set of benefits and drawbacks and there is no one way to live that can be seen as better than the other outside of the context of a personal decision.
Just as those who have chosen to remain childless, people with children have a unique set of positive and negative aspects to confront. People that have children have the benefit of adding to their family and experiencing the joys that come with young children. Many claim that it is like having a second childhood since they can watch their children go through some of the same things they did as children. Children can bring several rewards to a home and make it a lively and ever-changing environment. They can make their parents laugh and offer them entertainment and company. Furthermore, when children grow up they can be responsible for their parents and can help nurse them in age or sickness. Those with children can have grandchildren as well, another source of joy and excitement.
Although there are a number of benefits to having children, there are also several drawbacks. For instance, those with children do not always have the freedom to take trips or even have a night out without hiring a babysitter. Children are also quite expensive from the time they’re born until they’re out of the house, especially if one factors in the costs of paying for college and other forms of support that might be necessary later. Aside from the expense of having children, those with them understand quite quickly that they can often be frustrating and can cause parents a great deal of grief and heartache, especially in the teenage years. No family is perfect and disagreements and unpleasantness are “part of the package" along with the joys and excitements. Generally speaking, those with children are setting themselves up for a range of emotions, costs, and other details that can complicate their lives enormously.
Those with children face a complex set of benefits and drawbacks just as those without children do. For instance, those who do not have children have more free time to spend doing things they enjoy. They are able to go on vacation when they wish and they do not generally have to choose the spot with concerns about how their children will react. Unless other things hold them back, they can run out for a night on the town at a moment’s notice or go out to dinner or engage in other activities with little planning. In addition, it is likely that they will have more money to themselves to spend where they wish. They do not have to worry about paying for a child’s college, wardrobe, or other activities. For childless people, it may be easier to focus on a career or other interest solely as it is less likely they will feel that their attentions are divided. This greater amount of freedom might allow many to live their lives the way they imagined as they are not constantly surprised by what their child is doing or wants to do next. While there are many benefits to not having children, those without them might sometimes find themselves lonely. They will not experience the joy of seeing another human being they are inexorably tied to and have created, although this is not always important to some. For those without children, they might find it harder down the line when they’re old and infirm to have someone to take care of them or take them in, although this is certainly not always the case. In other words, although there is a greater level of freedom, both physically and financially, there are some drawbacks as well.
There are some similarities to having versus not having children, the most notable of which is the ability to lead a happy and full life. Both those with and without children find fulfillment in their choices and are able to shape their lives around whatever the circumstances may be. Both of these lifestyles allow for happiness and freedom, even it may come in a different form. The differences between the two are, for the most part, obvious. There are more expenses and less freedom for those with children while those without are able to live their lives according to their own vision rather than being subject to the needs of their dependents. No one way is better than the other as each has its own set of positive and negative aspects.